1. Learning to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it
Most of the decisions people regret after a loss are because of one thing: the need to escape from the pain.
Grief is uncomfortable in a ways few things are. It doesn’t stay neatly contained in a specific time and place but seeps into daily life. When pain invades all aspects of life, it creates a sense of urgency. A sense that something must be done immediately, even if we have no idea what that something might be.
Selling a home, moving to a new place, passing on responsibilities, or withdrawing from others may feel like relief in the short term. Pain says, “Do something. Change something. Anything.” And in the short term, it may feel like we’re making progress.
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